Easy Veggie Chicken-Style Wraps & Talking About Loneliness
Easy Veggie Chicken-Style Wraps With Hummus
As people have been flowing in and out of my life over these past few weeks, I've been thinking about the differences between being "alone" and "lonely". I recall a quote from the ever-wonderful Rupi Kaur:
So what is the difference between alone and lonely?
"Alone" is the state of being physically away from others (ie. a state of being) but having an understanding that someone has your back if you choose to reach out for help.
"Lonely" is the feeling that you have no one to reach out to in the first place; it is your emotional response to a situation.
So for example, if I drive to a party alone, it doesn't mean that I'm lonely. On the other hand, I could go to a party with bunch of people who I thought were my friends but then realised I couldn't confide in any of them if I had a problem.
Too often we confuse the two, and as such, out of fear of being lonely, we do not allow ourselves to be alone. The result? We go go go, chasing others for validation, chasing likes, chasing, chasing, chasing. We deplete our resources on other people and things, and end up empty in the tank, with nothing left to give to the most important thing in our life: our soul, baby, our S O U L.
That shit needs nourishment and it comes in the form of slowing down. Whatever that means to you, take some time to give just to yourself.
If you're like me when you're alone, you may find yourself thinking things like, "well, because I'm all by myself, it means I have no one", "no on cares about me because I'm alone", "people have forgotten about me", or "I need to be surrounded by people in order feel worthy."
Can you see how these thoughts confuse being alone vs. feeling lonely? These kind of thoughts basically see the two as one in the same (aka big problems).
If you find yourself unable to spend a few hours alone with yourself because it makes you feel lonely, it means more time is needed alone.
Why do I say this?
Feeling lonely for some time may not be a bad thing. When you feel you are unable to count on anyone but yourself, it shows how capable you are, and how magical and remarkable you are! By spending that much-needed time by yourself, you start to identify that the loneliness you once felt was just the uneasiness you were experiencing of now having to rely on yourself rather than others to make you happy!
And you can start this journey right now.
Here are some of my top ten ways I give to myself to be alone - and perhaps to feel a twinge of loneliness too ;) :
Dancing to my favourite music (you can find a selection of my best loved mixes on my Soundcloud account here)
Doing guided meditation (my current favourite YouTube channel for this, is this one)
Strolling alone along the beach
Picking up shells
Listening to podcasts
Writing down three gratitudes each morning
This list includes things that I am usually able to do with very little judgement. When I approach a piece of paper with my paintbrush, for example, I usually just go for it without thinking about the end result too much. It's important to have hobbies or things that you enjoy doing that don't necessarily need to improved on - you can just do it, happily, freely, in your own company :)
You are the only person who has to live with yourself so...
And now onto the recipe - that has absolutely nothing to do with the above: an easy and quick chicken-style wrap with fresh veggies.
I made this while on the road, travelling from Durban to JHB for a work event. All the ingredients can be easily found anywhere, it takes a few minutes too cook, and is totally yummy, vegan and wholesome!
Serves: 4 people
Prep time: 5 minutes
Cooking time: 8 minutes
1 onion, sliced
1 punnet mushrooms, sliced
3 - 5 tbsp of favourite hot sauce (I used a local fave, Nandos Peri Peri Hot)
4 rotis (or wraps)
190g hummus (I used this brand)
2 bell peppers, sliced
1 can chickpeas, rinsed and drained
1 avocado, sliced
A few handfuls of baby spinach
1. In a pan, on the stove, sauté the Chicken-Style Strips, sliced mushrooms, sliced onions in some water and the desired amount of hot sauce. I dare you to take the plunge and add some extra heat than you normally would.
2. Stir a few times, and cook until the Strips are soft and cooked through, about 8 minutes.
3. Take out your rotis or wraps and spread a generous amount of hummus. Maybe even toast your wraps.
3. Top with the Strips & veggie mixture, slices of bell peppers and avocado, a sprinkle of chickpeas, and a handful of spinach.
4. Try fold it up or let it mess everywhere. Eat. Nomz.